How I wash dishes and how I do it wrong

I cannot wash dishes to save my life. Every time I do them I think I did a good job, only to have M point out the large pieces of food still stuck to the plates. My only defense is, "Well, at least the food has been thoroughly washed. I'd eat off of them" But my finicky wife disagrees and begins the long process of scraping crusty food off our good Ikea china.